Sunday, February 8, 2015

If Happiness is Winning the Lottery..then Jackpot!

Becoming a parent is a revelation.  An eye opening, life changing, often times gut wrenching, always remarkable, revelation. To say that I've given up my life to raise my girls couldn't be further from the truth, because they have given me a new life--far better than the one I was living before! To say that everything I have done has been for them is also a half lie, because I do all those things that they enjoy for my self enjoyment as well. If it brings me happiness to have a picnic at the park with my girls, than I'm not just doing it for their sake, I'm also doing it for mine. 

Their happiness makes me happy.

Since I've become a wife and a mom I've experience a happiness I never knew existed, but I've also become much more emotional. I've let my guard down. I feel everything. I cry. I laugh. I love wholeheartedly, without fear or skepticism.

Lily (right) and Darya (left)
Recent Preschool Pictures
Yesterday my cousin posted a picture of my girls on her Instagram page while praising me for being
an awesome mom. I was surprised by her words of praise and the picture of my beautiful girls smiling back at me. I was moved to tears. Other than my husband, it's very rare for someone to give me a pat on the back and tell me that I'm doing a great job.  Why is that?

A mother's job is to love, to nurture, to raise their little ones in a positive light, shielding them from all the negative. We don't do it for the money (Ha! That was a joke). We don't do it just so we can turn around and boast about all our hard work and the plight of a mom.

We certainly don't do it for the praise. However, it's always nice when our hard work is noticed. I realized that yesterday when I read my cousin's post. A lot of people assume it's our job as a mom to do all those things that we do. They don't realize the sacrifices we make to raise happy kids.  Only we, as parents, know all of the ins and outs of what it took to get us here. Most of the time we are so blinded by love that we don't even acknowledge making sacrifices, because that's not what they are, they are life choices made in the name of love.

The reason I got choked up when I read my cousin's post wasn't because she was giving me kudos for being a great mom. It was because she was acknowledging that my kids are "happy" and "spunky." My goal as a mom is to have happy kids, to give them the childhood I didn't have. When someone other than myself or my husband acknowledges our kids happiness, it's like I just won the lottery.

My life can't get any better than it is right now.

I don't know what the future holds. All I have is right now. And right now, I have health, happiness, and the beautiful sunny California weather on my side. A perfect Sunday for a picnic at the park!

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